Rape Survival Think Tank

Rapists can be 

• Your spouse
• Your co-worker
• Your ex-partner
• Your relative
• Your acquaintance
• Someone who feels that "dessert" is part of a dinner date.
• Someone who is under the influence of drugs.
• Someone who drank too much alcohol 
• Someone who has gotten away with rape before.
• Someone who has an existing partner or spouse other than you already.
• A friend of one of the household members.
• A neighbor
• A stranger

Just know that. . .

Rapists will likely tell a different story of consent or they will accuse you trying to be a homewrecker or accuse you of entrapment.

Your family and immediate circle may not support the justice that you seek especially if the assailant has a strong standing in society.

Getting the rapist arrested and charged can be your biggest challenge. If you can get the arrest secured, then by all means go for the trial and/or fullest prosecution that you can. So many women never get their voices heard.

I champion you to fight not just for your self-esteem, but for others before and after you. 

Still have questions about your encounter? Then answer these questions:

• Did you feel lifeless, passed out, or an "out of body" experience?
• Do you feel that you want to see this individual again to discuss the encounter?
• Is he the father of your child/ren or a financial provider?
• Would you want another person to experience what you experienced?
• Was this your first sexual experience?
• Will you likely have triggers and/or flashbacks for the rest of your life?
• Did you push back and firmly say "No?"
• Did you have an approved medical facility to perform the rape kit?
• Are you scared?
• Is there a chance of retaliation for seeking justice?
• Do you want your story documented forever or on the court books?
• Do you want a civil remedy?
• Where did the encounter occur?
• What time did the encounter happen?
• Is domestic violence also a portion of the encounter?
• Do you have witnesses or was there a camera with video?
• Has there been past unfavorable encounters with this same assailant?

Every situation is different. There is no right or wrong answer. Your fight for women's rights and your worth is so important, but time is essential to the case. 

You should also know that most women have experienced unwanted groping, non-consensual sex, and/or sexual harassment.  

Local rape crisis hotlines can connect you with advocates and counselors that can assist you by listening while you talk through the ordeal to sort through the flags that you may have missed leading up to the encounter.  In many instances, there is no cost for advocates to talk to you. Counselors can plan a strategy for recovery on a sliding scale.

Vulnerability is not a crime. Often times, predators can sense vulnerabilities. Everyone has times of vulnerability no matter how smart that they think they are. 

An assailant becomes vulnerable as soon as you report the situation.

I hope this article will assist in your decision to report, to fight, and to heal.  Healing is in the fight; not the silence.

Break the silence. You are worth it.

NOTE: I am available to speak to District Attorney offices nationwide as well as speak to college campus groups. Speaking fee is negotiable. ~Benita

Biased Reporting of the Augusta Georgia DA election results

 

20 hours after the official 100% reporting and WJBF still had not highlighted and checked Williams as the winner of the Augusta Judicial Circuit in Georgia.

At 85% reporting, WJBF  had the losing candidate highlighted and checked for the Augusta Judicial Circuit in Augusta, Georgia.

November 2020 election

In fact, the earliest reporting of the Augusta Judicial Circuit results for District Attorney showed 100% reporting with 5301 votes for Paine and 4699 for Williams. Clearly, the biased mindset at WJBF was in place before the reporting ever began. Gotta love Georgia.

Poem: In Memory of my Aunt Elizabeth Blocker Beck

 

Elizabeth Blocker Beck

By Benita Blocker, September 2020

We gather today in memory of Queen Elizabeth Blocker Beck.

A Celebration of life as her sun has set.

A daughter, a sister, a mother, a grandmother, an auntie, cousin and friend.

Child of Christ as the pearly Gates welcome her in.

Her labor on this Earth is recognized through her heart and kind soul- as a survivor, a warrior, a nurturer, and a minister.

So we accept her passing with a happy heart that she is at peace in her crown and walking toward the light 

without a cross to bear for she has finished her fight.

At home, she has arrived.

Announcing your Royal daughter Queen Elizabeth Blocker Beck.

1944 - 2020

September 2020 Black Leadership in USA

 

In this world if you want to work toward peace, you have to work toward compromise.  It starts with "listening for understanding" versus just "hearing and ignoring."

In my #round2mark3 campaign, I fought for validation of my survival story. The results were a compromise, but I am at peace with the compromise because finally someone listened for an understanding.

In the #BreonnaTaylor campaign, the public outcry was listened to for an understanding. The compromise was a 12 million dollar settlement, changes in the "no knock" law, and some criminal charges. Be at peace that some positive results came from the campaign.

This is where Black leadership could have lead Black America to understand that the Breonna Taylor battle is over, but the war will wage on for all the injustices that we continue to see daily.

There was no need to disrespect the Breonna Taylor package in public. Yell at them behind closed doors that you felt shorted, but that is how a good compromise works when no side is completely happy. 

The additional protests after the criminal charges were announced reminded of a racist mindset of  "my way or the highway."

As with my #round2mark3 campaign, time to move on to the next fight.

Rape and Kidnapping (1990) in Asheville, NC

As I close out my #round2mark3 petition, I lay to rest a part of me that wanted justice for myself. I did my part. It is completely in God's hands now. Faith without work is dead. My efforts were necessary for my closure.

In 1990, there was no social media platforms. No Internet. The world was disconnected.  The disposal of my rape and kidnapping case is probably not the only case disposed of in the manner that it was. It is my belief that two deals were made. One to placate me to thinking that all Mark Lee Murray III needed was counseling. (There is no proof that he completed counseling, and even if he did get counseling, it wasn't enough to stop his future documented pattern of violence against others.) The second deal was probably an unspoken deal behind my back.

Nonetheless, I have full rights to my story. There is no doubts about my ordeal. I proved my case beyond a shadow of a doubt. My moderate symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder are fully validated.

However, proving the crime is not enough to fight the deal that was made surrounding the dismissal of the charges. The charges were not dismissed because rape and kidnapping didn't happen. The charges were dismissed for reasons beyond my control.

Those same reasons bar the charges from being filed again. So the justice system works for the defendant in this case. Social media works against the defendant because public opinion is a pseudo court in itself. I won the #round2mark3 campaign. Mark Lee Murray III won the freedom of getting away with rape and kidnapping legally speaking.

It's a tie. I wished the match could have been wrapped up sooner, but God has a Master plan.

Personal Protection Equipment: Face Coverings

My Sorority Colors.

I have always tried to practice Universal precautions.  As the economy continues to try and recover from the Pandemic, I continue to show care and concern in a fashionable sense for those around me.

Surprisingly, the rideshare companies must have listened to some of my #ridesharerant comedy material.  The passenger seat is no longer available, and luggage assistance is no longer available.   Those changes are now a part of many rideshare pandemic suggested health precautions. Excellent service may look different in these times.

My Favorite Colors: Black, White, and Red.

Animal Print. Polyester Mask.

Face Shield.

Please remember to use Promo Code: BENITA10 for ten percent off your order at www.colorproof.com

Cloth mask

My Leather face masks require steam to clean.  Otherwise, hand wash and air dry will do for all of them.

The 2020 Civil Rights Era

In May 2019, I warned you about White Supremacy positioning to rule. It is 2020, and based on current events, I was right on track.

So now, let me explain what seems to be happening now:

The Jews versus The Gentiles
1) The Jews biblically speaking are a chosen people.
2) According to Professor Tony Martin's research (YouTube video), Jews were in the slave trade administration before America got involved.
3) Steven Spielberg's movie Amistad may have been made to steer attention away from the Jews significant involvement in slave trade.
4) Both ACLU and NAACP organizations were also co-founded by Jews according to another document that I read.
5) The power of the Jewish community intimidates White Supremacy which may explain the Holocaust and the persecution of Jews.
6) In order to avoid being targeted for genocide again, the Jews historically push for immigration in the Americas to distract from their community.


White Supremacy
7) Immigration has made America a melting pot. The dilution makes White Supremacists feel like a minority. Thus everything that they can do to clear out the "diversity" is the endgame. They want a "divorce" from all of the cultures and ethnic groups in America.
8) By cleaning up immigration, they can better watch the Jewish community, the chosen people.

Black people
9) Black people have been in America so long that they just can't ship every Black person back to Africa so mass incarceration and/or execution wins "brownie points" to start to purge the population.

10) So even if everyone knows that the excessive sentencing and wrongful incarcerations are REAL- to correct the situation goes against the bigger picture to purge America.

11) So if Blacks want to stay in America, the fight is just beginning.  It is a revolution. That is the movement that you are seeing and feeling.

12) The cameras are capturing everything with the "hoods off." This is an advantage for now, but distribution of wealth will sustain those contributing to the purge.

13) Love conquers hate. There are always exceptions. The "underground railroad" was proof of that.

All Ethnic groups and communities are targets. Death, incarceration, or leave seem to be the ultimate options that will be on the table if White Supremacy continues to position itself through judges and the Judicial process.

So to the gangs and "Black on Black beefs" - you have bigger fish to fry.