Sexual Worth Affirmation

Sexual Worth Affirmation
by Benita Blocker

Any adult believing in the separation of the human mind from the human body

opens the doors of confusion without boundaries.

Molestation, rape, incest, abuse are real.

Such topics should be taught to children early so they will know the deal.

Spouses, friends, relatives, coaches,

ministers, mentors, politicians, young and old associates,

all potential abusers whose sexual choices may be gender or age inappropriate.

Social workers, co-workers, sergeants, officers, kin,

all may recognize opportunities for sexual harassment to begin.

One on one encounters can easily go the wrong way,

So always remaining alert to sexual advancement must everyone stay.

The value of another's body for some may be just another notch on a belt

without understanding that all sexual violations are a lifetime felt.

Human Trafficking and Sex Trafficking in the USA

After watching the movie "End of Watch," after reading survivor stories in Essence and Ebony Magazines, after reading that President Barack Obama has designated a $6 million grant to build solutions according to USA Today 9/27/12 edition, I was absolutely consumed with the topic of human trafficking and modern day slavery.

So let's look at all obvious angles:

The "Pimps" and "Madames" that rule the "modern day slaves:" They are men and women who see the world as a "hustle" to survive and make money. Only the strong will survive. If you deal with "humans" as commodity, then you can re-use the commodity without buying a new supply unlike if you were selling drugs. There may even be less punishment for those convicted of human trafficking versus drug trafficking. (I have not researched the difference in the sentencing trend.) So these people are trying to hustle "smart" versus working too hard at another human being's expense.

The Sex slaves: Some may be kidnapped and drugged and trapped into the lifestyle. Some may have left home because their mother's boyfriend or their mother's new husband or some other male has repeatedly sexually assaulted the youth. The youth can not get peace at home because of the abuse. Then the youth tries to find peace in the streets. Instead of finding shelter, the youth find similar predators as found at their home except the predators are now complete strangers. The youth find themselves in hell on the streets with a memory of hell at home. They give up on life because they can not seem to "win for losing."

Work slaves: Illegally transported from another country and promised a better life. They find their promises are broken and threatened to be sent back to a country that they do not want to return to.

So how do you solve everyone's problem? Find everyone a decent, honest, "good paying" job so that they can live their own American dream without the expense of destroying someone else's dreams. And to take this a step forward, encourage workplace fairness, diversity, and inclusion. And to take this topic even a step forward, consider this: if your $20 million dollar dream is at the expense of someone else's $100,000 dream, then it is called "greed."

How to Protect Your Child from Sexual Predators?

Knowledge is power. First of all, it is important to know that sexual predators can be at your child's daycare, your child's school, your church, your doctor's office, your next door neighbor. A sexual predator can be a "baby-sitter", "coach", "teacher", "priest", "minister", "relative", "politician", "doctor", "therapist" , "police officer" "principal", and any other "trusted" profession. Anyone that you come in contact with could be a sexual predator regardless of age or gender.

So if you understand this, then you understand that you have to continually make your child aware that they have "private areas" and that their "private areas" should not be touched by anyone inappropriately. At what age? As soon as they are old enough to talk and comprehend what you are teaching them, then they should be instructed to let you know if something happens to confuse them or make them feel funny or if they pulled down their pants for anything other than "going to the potty." Also, make your child aware of "staring" or "facial expressions" and "behaviors" constantly going on around them. Even as adults, you must be aware of suspicious activity in case of assault or robbery. Your child must learn the same instincts.

You can not watch your child 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for the rest of their life. You may not want them to "grow" up too quickly because you are a little embarrassed about how young that you were exposed to sexuality.

According to my poll that I have taken over the years, by age 8, your child would have already been exposed to some sort of sexual conversation from other children at school or daycare or church or somewhere. So your child can be ahead of the curve or behind. If they are ahead of the curve, then make sure that they are not trying to take advantage of those who are behind. You know your child's personality. Sexual predators are children at some point as well.

I think the most important thing is to teach "privacy" and "no touching" as soon as you can. By age 2 definitely. On a separate note, I think the "sexuality talks" should come as your child has questions. It may be be uncomfortable for you, but keep it basic. As they enter into a healthy relationship or marriage, then they will find their own creativity.

As they begin dating or potentially sexually active, the talk about sexually transmitted disease should come up as well as "cold sores."

I know that this seems like a "heavy load" for your "baby." However, sexual predators look for the weak to prey on.